Fear. It’s something we all experience, especially when faced with the unknown. For many, the idea of traveling to new places, particularly to unfamiliar countries, triggers some anxiety and doubt. What if it’s too expensive? What about our jobs? What if it’s not safe? What if it doesn’t go as planned? What if we run out of money? What if we are too old for these adventures? The list goes on ….
These kind of questions often stop people from experiencing the life-changing benefits of travel. But here’s the truth: travel is one of the most powerful ways to conquer your fears and grow as a person.
For many of us the transition from a busy home to an empty one can bring mixed emotions. On one hand, it’s a time of newfound freedom; on the other, it’s a time when you may feel unsure about what comes next. And for those who have always dreamed of traveling, that fear of the unknown can often hold you back, especially when you’re mindful of a budget. But travel doesn’t have to be expensive or daunting—it can be your gateway to conquering fears and rediscovering life.
Here’s how stepping outside your comfort zone through travel can transform your life, even on a budget:

1. Start Small, Dream Big
As empty nesters, you’ve probably spent years prioritizing family responsibilities. Now, it’s your time which is exciting. Start by exploring your own backyard—take a weekend caravan trip or book a short getaway somewhere not too far away. These small trips can build your travel confidence without overwhelming your budget. As you get comfortable, you can plan bigger adventures, like exploring some iconic caravan routes or head off to some national parks for great hiking and camping. And after that maybe even consider an extended trip overseas?
2. Let Go of the ‘What Ifs’
Traveling as an empty nester brings a lot of “what if” fears: What if it’s too expensive? What if it’s not safe? What if it doesn’t go as planned? Budget-friendly travel is possible with a little planning. Look for affordable options like Airbnb stays, road trips and caravanning, searching for off-season travel deals. And remember, travel doesn’t always go according to plan—and that’s okay. Some of the best memories come from embracing the unexpected.
3. Use Your Experience to Your Advantage
One of the benefits of being an empty nester is that you have years of life experience to draw from. Whether it’s budgeting wisely, planning family trips in the past, or handling a difficult situation you’ve got skills that are perfect for travel. You know how to manage a budget, spot a deal, and navigate challenges. Use these skills to plan affordable trips, whether it’s a long road trip or a quick international getaway.
4. Connect with Fellow Travelers
You’re not alone in wanting to travel as an empty nester. There’s a whole community of like-minded people who are stepping out and exploring the world after years of raising a family. Whether you meet fellow caravaners, chat with locals at a budget-friendly stay, or join a group tour, connecting with others can help you conquer any fears of loneliness or isolation while on the road.
5. Trust Your Instincts—You’ve Got This
When you first start traveling, especially on a budget, it’s easy to feel uncertain. But remember, you’ve already navigated life’s biggest challenges—raising kids, managing a household, and finding balance. Trust in your ability to adapt and enjoy the journey. Each time you step out of your comfort zone, you’re not just discovering a new place—you’re rediscovering yourself.
6. Travel on Your Own Terms
One of the perks of being an empty nester is the freedom to travel when and how you want depending on your own individual circumstances of course. Perhaps you are still working either full or part time or have been able to fully retire. Work your travels around your own life right now. With us over the past few years we’ve been fortunate enough to step in and out of work with extended trips either here in Australia or overseas.
Have a think about what you like to do. Do you enjoy hiking, kayaking, or maybe relaxing in nature? Pick destinations that offer these activities without breaking the bank. Love cooking? Stay in a place with a kitchen where you can prepare your own meals. Or enjoy the freedom of cooking from your caravan and learn more about camp fire cooking. With some research, you can find budget-friendly accommodations that allow you to experience the local culture without overspending.
7. Embrace Slow Travel
Let me tell you something. Mike and I need to get better at this!! Instead of rushing through trips or ticking off tourist spots, try to embrace the idea of slow travel. It’s not about packing in as much as possible—it’s about experiencing a place fully and not even worrying about all the tourist spots. Stay in a caravan park for a week, explore a national park, or spend a few days exploring a small town. If you have no real time frame even consider staying longer if you can. Slow travel is often more affordable and allows you to immerse yourself in a destination without feeling pressured to do it all.
Final Thoughts: Rediscover Life Through Travel
As an empty nester, your world is wide open again, and travel is a way to step into this new chapter with excitement, not fear. By starting small, planning smart, and embracing the unknown, you can conquer your travel fears while staying within your budget. Each trip will remind you that life is full of opportunities—waiting for you to discover them.
So, pack your bags, map out your next adventure, and remember: it’s never too late to travel, explore, and conquer your fears!

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And one of my favourite moments of the whole trip happened on Santorini. Ali likes to remind me of that but I contend that this could have happened in any Greek village anywhere. Let me explain. It is possible to escape the crowds, souvenir shops, overpriced restaurants, traffic, mistreated donkeys etc. on Santorini if you rent a scooter and seek out a few of the small villages where some semblance of traditional Greek life actually still goes on. Well, whilst in one of these villages on a Sunday morning we found the locals at church, with a marching band waiting outside. We wandered up to the top of the hill where another whitewashed blue domed church stood that you could actually stand on top of, which we did, on our own. And then the church bells of the other two churches in the village started up (there are more churches than you can poke a stick at, and blue domes abound). We stood there, no tourists, no selfie sticks, it was beautiful. When the bells stopped and we came down the locals were all outside their church sharing food and drinking wine. Beautiful.














Whilst on Paros we took a side trip to the tiny island of Antiparos which is only a 10 minute ferry ride away. A very quiet and tranquil place with a nice walk around the top of the island. Apparently Tom Hanks and Bruce Willis have houses here but we didn’t spot either of them, although there was an odd looking bloke sitting on a park bench telling his life story to anyone who would listen.

There is a medieval old town on the hill overlooking the port with a great view from the top which is pretty cool.

The scenery on the interior on the island is stunning too. The hills rise up pretty steeply from the coast and once you get up the top there isn’t much there other than a few goats and donkeys and the views are well worth the effort of getting there.

























I think I will stop him on his next pass for a cup. I’m not a tea drinker at home but chai here in India is delicious. Steaming hot, sweet and fragrant. I love the way they do it on the street corners. The steaming hot milk gets ladled into a jug, a bit of the boiling spiced tea is added, sugar is added to the glass and then the mixture is poured from jug to glass, glass to jug a few times in a very flamboyant way to mix everything up and take a bit of the heat out so that you can hold it. A bit of showmanship and a nice hot cup of chai all for the equivalent of about $0.20.
It is actually pretty impressive what does come out of the buffet car on the trains though. On this one you can actually walk past the open kitchen and see it all going on. 
Everything is made from scratch and you have to step over bags of potatoes, rice and other provisions to get to the next car. They need a lot of stuff to keep everyone fed and watered. This train has 24 carriages, all sleepers, and takes more than two days and two nights days to get from source to destination.
Thiruvananthapuram, fortunately also known as Trivandrum (I can’t even say Thiruvananthapuram), is pretty much right on the southern tip of India in the beautiful state of Kerala, which the Indians like to call ‘ Gods own country’. This could be slightly confusing in a country with multiple gods, but you get the idea. The scenery is different to the rest of India. Kerala has beautiful palm fringed beaches, mountains, national parks harbouring tigers and elephants and beautiful backwaters that stretch for a few hundred kilometres.



An eight hour journey covering about 100ks which was far more relaxing than any bus in India could possibly be, although you do start to get used to the latest Bollywood tunes distortedly blaring from crappy speakers whilst sitting on an uncomfortable seat in 35 degree heat with no aircon.
Still, what do you expect for the equivalent of about $3.00 for an eight hour bus ride through the winding roads of the Western Ghats? That was almost as beautiful as the scenery on the backwaters boat trip, a far more relaxed side of India that you don’t see in the north. And you don’t get to see ducks being herded everyday. I kid you not, duck herding. Photographic evidence to prove it.


The other options were the slightly cheaper AC 3 tier sleepers, the much cheaper non aircon 3 tier sleepers (been there, done that, not doing it again), which makes up the majority of the train or the dirt cheap two unreserved carriages. These are still sleeper cars but you don’t get an allocation. First in best dressed with the floor as a second option. These cars are locked off from the rest of the train to prevent the ‘overflow’ spilling into the ‘luxury’ carriages.


With a few sensible precautions of course, such as avoiding the tap water and anything that isn’t freshly prepared or served nice and hot. I think my favourite dining experience so far is when we found where the locals eat whilst passing through a little village on a rented scooter. We went in, got served a ‘South Indian meal’ on a banana leaf, got treated like celebrities including having to do selfies with the locals, and got charged 50 rupees ($1) for a full belly and a wonderful experience.
I was younger then though and I’m far too old for that now. Not that I would describe our current accomodation as first class but it is the highest class on offer on this train and so far, so good.
But the colours of India are still as vibrant as ever and despite the western influences that are clearly visible (such as McDonalds and KFC, although they are very few and far between), the women still mostly dress traditionally in beautiful colourful saris and other traditional styles of dress. 

Brightly painted Hindu temples still abound, even in Kerala which is highly Christianised due to the Portuguese and Dutch influences. The smells of spices and incense mostly overpower that of rubbish and cow crap (not always though), and did I mention the food? It’s very easy to see why the British adopted Indian cuisine so readily. And life on the train is just as colourful and full of wonderful smells.


Living in South East Queensland I am pretty hard to impress when it comes to beaches as we do have a pretty high standard at home, but I have to say, some of the beaches that we saw in the Algarve were comparable to our Queensland beaches. Long stretches of golden sand, clear blue water and even a few dramatic cliffs here and there to set them off. Just a shame it was too cold for swimming.
In short, we got lost coming out of Portimao, cycled up some hills that we probably didn’t need to and ended up cycling the last 12ks into Lagos along a main road. Ali wasn’t happy! But fortunately she got over it when we arrived in Lagos as it really is a stunning place.



Glad I wasn’t halfway to Sagres when that happened. So we got the train, checked in to our hotel in Villa Real, and then found a little hardware store that fortunately had the right size bolt to fix the saddle. That was easy, little did I know what was coming next!
This was probably the best days cycling we had. Beautiful beaches and lovely little towns and the cycle route was actually clearly marked along this section. We ended the day’s cycling around lunchtime in a beautiful place called Tavira. We had a wonderful lunch of bread, cheese and Portuguese sausage all washed down with a bottle of rose and spent the rest of the day wandering around this beautiful little town.


